Tops And Bottoms In The Lesbian Community How Does It Work?
Looking for more information about tops and bottoms in the lesbian community how does it work? Before we can have a closer look at what it means to be a homosexual female top or bottom, we need to define what a lesbian is first. A lesbian is a woman who is attracted to and prefers intimate relationships with other women. A homosexual woman's main physical, emotional and sexual feelings are focused on other women.
A lesbian top prefers to be on the giving end rather than the receiving end of sex acts. Tops are very active during intercourse and often take the lead during sex. A good example will be that this individual will be the one to perform oral sex rather than receive it (bottom).
When it comes to BDSM, the top will be in control of the action. If it is a dominant/submissive lesbian relationship, for example, the top would be the dominant. She craves to control the submissive (bottom). Or if there is bondage involved, the tops will be the partners doing the handcuffing, and refuse to be cuffed themselves.
It is crucial to discuss your roles in the relationship and bedroom before you have sex in order to determine if your partner is a top, bottom or switch. It is also during this talk that you need to determine what your boundaries are. Pre-sex consent is vital in heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual relationships.
Whether you plan to indulge in bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism (BDSM) or not, it is recommended that you pick safe words. These words will help your partner better determine if a sexual action is delightful or just plain painful. Especially with a new partner safe words will help them get an idea what you like and dislike a lot quicker than if there were just moaning, groaning and screaming, which can mean anything.
It is also important to decide whether or not you are going to use sex toys during intercourse. Couple’s toys are highly recommended since the top and bottom partner can be pleasured simultaneously. While browsing online or bricks and mortar stores for toys remember to place a bottle or two lube in your cart! Remember that water-based lube is safe to use with latex condom and gloves as well as silicone toys. Oil-based lube is a no-no for these materials. Oil will cause latex and silicone to disintegrate and in turn increase the risk of condom and glove tears.
You should always practice safe sex in order to prevent the transmission or contraction of STDs. Dental dams are recommended for safe oral sex. Latex gloves should be worn during fisting, fingering and manual vaginal or anal stimulation for peace of mind. And condoms should cover sex toys specifically penetrative toys not only to help stop the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) but also to make the cleaning process easier. Remember to use a new condom every time during intercourse.
Prevention is better than cure and keep in mind certain sexually transmitted diseases do not have a cure.
